What if God asked you to replace His name with the name of your spouse
in Proverbs 3:5
“Trust in _______ with all thine heart."
Trusting our
spouse with all our heart requires a certain
dependence. God created
humans to depend upon each other, especially in marriage. Noted marriage
mentor Jimmy Evans says, “A strong, healthy marriage requires a husband
and wife to both depend upon each other.” How do we
trust our spouse with everything we got? We must embrace the plan of
dependence established in Genesis 2:18. God said “It is not good that
the man should be alone,” and he created woman as his help meet. If men
are dependent on women, conversely, women are dependent on men.Three steps to establishing dependence in a biblical-patterned marriage:
1. Leave behind all relationships. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother” says Genesis 2:24, letting go of our former lives as sons and daughters. Samuele Bacchiocchi, Ph. D., Andrews University wrote “’Leaving’ means all lesser relationships must give way to the newly formed marital relationship. A leaving must occur to cement a covenant relationship of husband and wife.”
2. Cleave to each other. Webster’s dictionary defines ‘cleave’ as adhering to loyally and unwavering. Trust in your spouse as if your life depends on them. You should make your spouse know you need them.
3. Become one flesh. Does consummating a marriage make
two people “one flesh”? Becoming one flesh goes beyond the bedroom.
Couples learn and respect each others personalities and habits. They
know each others thoughts, feel each others emotions and grow into one
inseparable unit.
The process takes time! Dependence happens gradually, it's not immediate or automatic. I've been processed for the past 27 years and still learning. I've heard “Practice makes perfect!”
Practicing every day,Tammy
The Happy Handicap
Loved your post. My husband and I are reading "Hold Me Tight". Excellent book for married couples, even if you aren't experiencing horrible fights. Which we're not, the book still has great advice. Followed you from SITS. Have a great day!
ReplyDeleteThanks Vicki! I'll check into that book. We can always improve ourselves which improves our relationships with our spouse and maybe others too! Enjoy your day! Thanks for stopping by.
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