Wednesday, October 16, 2013

The 2 S's of a Wife; what are they?

Happy 2nd Anniversary!
 Trey and Sydnee
October 16, 2013
 
THE TWO S's OF A WIFE
what are they?
Submission & Subjection
please read on...

I've often pondered the mystery of marriage; walking up an aisle to a minister, answering a few questions "yes" or "I will" and walking out an entirely different person. I may over-analyze things a bit but this was the scariest part of marriage for me. In a few seconds with a few simple words, your life is changed forever.  If...you believe and accept it. Our transformation from life to death through Jesus happens in the same manner. Think about this, it's really no different from the dating and marriage process. Jesus has been whispering in your ear encouraging you to choose him for a new life. You finally make your decision that it's him you want, you walk the aisle to an altar or a minister, say "yes, I accept you" and your life is changed forever. You must also ask Him for forgiveness and believe.  Will you make mistakes in both unions? Will you want to throw your hands up and quit in both unions? Will you ever wonder what it all means? Yes, Yes and Yes!

The next couple of weeks I'll be sharing my thoughts on Ephesians 5:22-33 concerning marriage. Today, let's start with verses 22-24 which reads; Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

The definition of submit in this context is to accept or yield to the will of another person. God didn't give wives instructions to love their husbands because he knew that would be easy for them. He designed women inherently for love and care, as a help meet.  He created women to love and for love. An example of this is childbirth, great pain + new baby = unending love!  Ladies, our husband are the head of our households and we should let them be. I know what you're thinking. He doesn't accept responsibility, he's lazy, he doesn't know how to do anything, he can't make decisions, he don't have any common sense, how can I submit to that?  Yeah, maybe but you have to understand his role in the union.

Genesis 3:23 tells us man was banished from the Garden of Eden to till the ground because he listened to his wife and ate from the wrong tree. I'm not trying to be funny here, this is scripture! This incident plainly shows us how our roles get turned upside down and what happens as a consequence. Men are single-minded because that's how God created them, to dress and tend the garden. For example, how do you plant a garden? In several single steps, right? Till the ground, drop the seed, cover the seed, no compound tasks! Have you ever noticed how annoyed your husband becomes if you ask him to stop what he's doing and do something else? It's the way he was designed! Understand him and submit to it. It'll make your union so much stronger.  You aren't submitting to Christ if you aren't submitting to your husband.

Your husband is also your protector as Christ is the savior of the world. Your husband's job is to save and protect you, keep you from harm. Does Christ save everyone? Everyone that will let him. Can your husband protect you? If you will let him but don't be encouraging him to eat bad fruit!  I bet your husband gives you a hundred subtle tips a week to help you and most of the time you shrug him off. Are you guilty? I am! When I don't listen and find myself in need of Steve's help, I hear him, in my head, warning me about the thing I just did and what would happen. Do you know anyone else who guides your life in the same manner? Are you understanding verse 24 yet? Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Being subject unto your husband allows two things to happen in your marriage; encourages your husband to accept his leadership role in the home and keeps wives out of trouble.  When you are subject to Christ, you feel good inside because you know you have pleased him. Be subject to your husband for once and please him!

Of course, for all this to work correctly as God intended there are instructions for the husband also. We will cover some of those next week. There is so much in Ephesians 5 it's difficult to shorten and contain to a brief space. Read it for yourself, examine yourself and submit to it's teachings. 
 
Practicing,
Tammy
The Happy Handicap

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