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Showing posts with label 365. Show all posts
Saturday, January 13, 2018
Marriage Challenge #2
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Thursday, January 4, 2018
Marriage Challenge #1
Marriages have different challenges. The challenge I found to be most difficult is becoming one.
Mark 10:7-8 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
I've never read in the scriptures where a woman should leave her father and mother. If you know the verse, please tell me. I'm an only child. Not leaving and living 50 yards from my parents pleases me. That's the truth. Luckily, my husband likes it too or he's grown to like it! Some may say distancing myself may have made the "twain" easier? We will never know.
Now for the twain part, becoming one flesh. The Bible teaches me to submit to my husband. I'm good with that but what if it's simply hard to do. Some of the main things I noticed early on:
I've never read in the scriptures where a woman should leave her father and mother. If you know the verse, please tell me. I'm an only child. Not leaving and living 50 yards from my parents pleases me. That's the truth. Luckily, my husband likes it too or he's grown to like it! Some may say distancing myself may have made the "twain" easier? We will never know.
Now for the twain part, becoming one flesh. The Bible teaches me to submit to my husband. I'm good with that but what if it's simply hard to do. Some of the main things I noticed early on:
- His Christian thoughts aren't exactly mine. Differences in beliefs is confusing and frustrating.
- Family traditions and values don't all align.
- He feels like I give my family more time than his.
- My ideas are more important to me than his.
- I don't listen to him.
- I won't let him help me.
- He don't want to help me.
- He expects to eat my cooking every day.
- He thinks I should be able to manage the bills more effectively.
- He watches too much Georgia football.
- And, I'd rather not mention the three-letter-word that begins with s
Early on? Did I say early on? I still deal with a few of these. We are twain.....now. After 32 years. My experience and longevity begat patience. Unity does not happen overnight. Brothers and sisters born to the same parents with everything exactly the same rarely achieve unity quickly if at all.
I'm never too hard on myself or my spouse because we're both giving the union our best. Forgiveness then forgetting. We allow each other to make mistakes. More importantly, we give each other time to learn from our mistakes. We give each other room. We TALK to each other. My spouse still can't read my mind.
If things weren't working, we despised a plan together to try something new. Above all, we are forever committed to making our marriage work. If you're always giving 200% and getting 25%, you'll be exhausted. God purposed marriage as an equal partnership. You should never feel alone. Unity is not singular.
How have we made it 32 years? Improving one's self. Keeping each other accountable without blame. Working together. Serving God and each other. Being humble and kind while steadfast and strong. LOVE. God created marriage. His grace is what helped us through the last 32.
Honestly, sometimes I didn't think unity was gonna happen. Presently, some days I wonder where it went. Others days, we finish each other thoughts mid-sentence. When discouragement comes (although not often anymore), I look at the word "unified". It does have two i's and no we, but.....
"U" and "I" come first.
Working on Marriage 365,
Tammy
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